Best Sex Positions to Orgasm - A vaginal and anal guide

There are only so many sex positions the average person can remember. Odds are you have a few regular solids that you know get you where you're trying to go. But, once you figure out your version of the old faithful in the bedroom, you may stop experimenting. But, just beyond your steady go-to positions is a whole world of pleasure! If you're stuck in a sex position rut, check out these best positions to orgasm vaginally and anally!

We've created these so everyone is included - a vaginal area for women and the anal positions specifically for men. 

Why especially for men?

Doesn't everyone have an anus?

Absolutely.

Everyone does have an anus, but only people born male possess the prostate. 

We'll explain soon. 

Best Sex Positions to Orgasm - A Vaginal Guide

These sex positions are chosen with all types of pleasure in mind. We firmly believe that while penetrative sex can bring orgasm, you should always have access to your clitoris or stimulate it just in case.

After all, the clitoris is the most potent pleasure centre.

Especially if youinclude a vibrator during penetrative sex, you can almost guarantee that anyone with a vagina will have an earth-shattering time!

The Classic: Cowgirl

Yes, of course. No list would be complete without the cowgirl position. Why? Many reasons!

Girl on top puts you in the driver's seat. 

How to do it:

The man lays on the bed flat on his back.

The woman climbs on top of the man and straddles him.

The woman can choose between being on her knees or squatting down on her feet.

Each has its benefits for speed, control, and depth of penetration.

In this position, most women go up and down, but if you rock back and forth, you may find that this position can easily stimulate the clitoris as well. 

Why it's great:

The cowgirl position helps you experience internal orgasms because it allows the penis to penetrate you deeply, reaching far into the vagina and ideallystimulating the A-spot.

The cowgirl position also allows a woman to have her hands free to stimulate her breasts, clitoris, or reach back and play with the testicles or anus of her partner.

This position also allows the woman to choose her own speed and pleasure pattern based on how she's feeling.

Sexologist's choice: the CAT position

It stands for Coital Adjusted Technique - it's a sex therapist-honed pleasure-packed position!

How to do it: 

Start in the missionary position with the man on top.

The man then shifts up higher than the missionary position, so their shoulders and head are about 15 centimetres higher than in the missionary position.

Like the upwards-facing dog position in yoga, the man should put weight on his arms or his partner's chest. 

Why it's great: 

Yes, this does mean the penis won't go all the way into the vagina.

This is a shallow penetration position where the root of the erect penis is firmly pushed against the clitoris. Choosing this position means stimulating the clitoris while enjoying all the sensations of penetration and containment.

The focus of the CAT technique isn't thrusting. It's about stimulating the head of the penis and the clitoris.

This position is perfect for men who may struggle with early ejaculation and women who don't usually orgasm from sex.

Stand and deliver

This position is great when you've had a hard day, and you just want your man to do all the work while you relax. 

How to do it:

You'll need a table, bench, or several pillows stacked up on the edge of your bed.

The man is standing for this position, and the woman lays flat on her back on your chosen surface. 

The woman should start with her knees bent close to her chest while the man enters her.

Now you've got complete control over where your legs go.

If you're bendy, try putting them both on the man's shoulders! You can do one leg up, one down, wrapped around his waist, both legs to one side - there are tons of potential variations for you to choose from!

Why it's great:

Besides being able to relax and enjoy the ride, the woman has full access to her clitoris, so she can stimulate it with a toy or her hand. Also, this deep penetration position allows the penis to go just about as deep as humanly possible - which most people will enjoy.

There's the added bonus that the man has a fabulous and unforgettable view of your pleasure!

Best Sex Positions to Orgasm - An Anal Guide

Obviously, anatomy differs between women and men. There's no exception with the anus here!

Inside a biological man's anus is a unique area called the prostate.

It's about the size and shape of half a walnut (NOT the same texture or hardness.)

If you haven't found yours yet, insert a lubricated finger into your anus and curve it up towards your belly button. Feel around for a smooth and squishy bulb. Try stroking it, massaging it, whatever feels good! 

The prostate is a pleasure centre that helps power male orgasms with or without direct simulation!

The classic: Doggy Style

Of course, no anal sex list would be complete without mention of doggy style!

It's a classic for countless reasons and if you've forgotten about it, add it to your sexual repertoire!

How to do it: 

If you don't already know, then don't worry! 

The bottom (person being penetrated anally) gets on their hands and knees on the bed or other surface you're having sex on. The bottom's bottom should be fully exposed.

The top (person penetrating the bottom) comes from behind on their knees and enters the bottom slowly and gently.

Why it's great: 

Aside from the incredibly deep thrusting opportunities, it offers both people options to control.

If the top wants to thrust fast and hard, he can go to town with a full range of motion and his hands-free to do us about whatever he wants. 

The bottom could ask the top to stay still and ride their partner's cock as fast or slow as they want.

There's a little something for everyone here! 

Frogger 

This one takes a bit of upper body strength on both parts and shouldn't be done lightly without proper communication. This one is critical for you to take precautions, such as putting a pillow under the bottom's head for safety.

How to do it:

Similar to doggy style, the bottom should be on all fours but on the ground this time. The top will come from behind and lift their partner up by their thighs or waist, so they're level with the top's penis. Then, the bottom can wrap his legs around the top if he chooses while the top thrusts.

Why it's great:

Besides feeling like acrobats, this position offers a change-up from the classic doggy with all the benefits of full deep thrusting penetration.

Unlike doggy, though, it offers a more extensive range of hip motions for the top, meaning they can get a little more creative in how they use their hips. 

It's great for the bottom is fun, too, because of how their body is angled. They'll definitely have some blood rushing to their head, making them lightheaded.

This can make your orgasm much more intense, but remember that it can make this position a bit of a hazard, so communicate well!

Let the bottom do the work

At the end of the day, the top is doing most of the work. While this is generally unfair, a few positions take the pressure off the top so they can relax and enjoy the ride. This classic position is ideal for letting the bottom take a turn!

How to do it

Have the top lay down on the bed or floor and really relax. The bottom will come and straddle the top with their backside aligning with the top's groin. The bottom can lower themselves onto the top's penis in a traditional cowboy style.

If you want more variety, the bottom can face the opposite direction, so the top has a great view of their backside and pump away!

Why it's great

It's hard to beat the classics. The cowboy position lets the bottom not only do all the work but have a sense of being in control. This position is ideal for anal beginners who want to go at their own pace. It's also great for advanced anal lovers who can go as deep as possible!

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While we can't come in the bedroom with you to help you learn the best positions to orgasm, we're here to help you learn online.

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Get out there, get in there, and get off there!

Elaine S. Turner

Resident Sexologist | Sex, Dating, & Relationship Coach | Pleasure Product Expert

www.SexWithElaine.com

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