How to Use Couple's Sex Toys

Have you and your partner decided it's time to start using a couples sex toy? It may be hard to choose what with all of the variety out there. However, there are a few more common types that you'll come across time and time again.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of products marketed as "couples" toys are designed for heteronormative (cisgendered male and female) couples. There are a few exceptions that we will be discussing today.

Teledildonics

Before we dive into toy types, we think it's essential for you to understandteledildonics.

Yes, you read that right,teledildonics is not only a word, but it is also an entire industry!

As the name may hint at, it is essentially the new age, smart sex toys that are readily available. Toys that use any app connected to the internet or utilise Virtual Reality (VR) are all examples of teledildonics.

Why do we Need to Know About Teledildonics?

Perhaps it hasn't crossed your mind just yet, but many of the toys out there on the market are designed for solo use and aren't' exactly user friendly. 

Many companies love to add 10, 20 or 30 vibration patterns, like the Newman by PrettyLove, which has 30 vibration patterns and just four buttons.

Who has time or patience to flip through 30 different patterns?

That is why app-controlled and smart sex toys are ideal. They allow you to have a high amount of exact control over your toy, or you can share that control with someone else!

Some brands even let multiple people share control over the same toy at the same time! 

Many of these toys are ideal for discreet play as well. Meaning that they're tucked safely and quietly into someone's clothing, and the other partner has complete control over the pleasure at all times. Like, perhaps, over dinner at a nice restaurant? Or while you're at the cinema? The possibilities are endless!

Top Teledildonics Companies

While not every toy may seem like a couple's toy, a few companies design toys that can be used with applications or allow others to control them. Check out these companies if you want to learn a bit more:

• We-Vibe - With so many great features to choose from, it can be hard to choose anything other than We-Vibe, they have variations on all the classic styles, and the app is very user friendly
• Lovense- One of the pioneers in the field of teledildonics, these premium manufacturers have three different applications to choose from, including one that is specially designed for Camgirls and guys!
• Satisfyer - Not all of their toys have compatible apps. However, their application is regarded as having the best connectivity and offer a ton of versatility and room to share the controls! Did we mention that all Satisfyer products come with a 15-year guarantee?
• KIIROO - A little different from the previous companies. KIIROO makes smart, VR based masturbators that allow you to sync up the movements with your favourite porn actress! They can also sync up to another user's toy. These are magic and do all the work for you.

Most Popular Couples Toy Styles

Now that you know the leading companies out there cornering the teledildonics market let's talk about the most popular styles of couples toys out there!

The Remote Control

There are many toys available that include a remote control these days. These are the simplest kinds of couple's toys and allow your partner to take control over your pleasure. Suppose you're looking to dip your toe into toys or discreet play. In that case, we recommend theFerri by Lovense that has a small magnet to help the toy stay in your panties, as well as theHush Vibrating Butt Plug by Lovense.

The Vibrating Cock Ring

If there is a penis or dildo involved in your play, then these are an easy choice! They can be worn around the base of the penis, behind the testicles, or both! They're designed to help desensitise the penis, so you last longer, keep the blood in the penis, so you're bigger, and make the penis-owner's orgasm more intense. Need we say more?

Oh, the fact that they have vibrators as well!

Though they come in many shapes and sizes, the vibrating cock rings can tickle a clit or sphincter in all kinds of ways! Just choose the one that suits your needs best. 

We recommend theWe-Vibe Pivot and theSatisfyer Strong One as they're both super powerful and rechargeable.

The C-Shaped Vibrator

It's better than it sounds! The C-shaped vibrator has been gaining in popularity since its recent advent in the sex toy community. Take a look at theWe-Vibe Chorus and theLelo Ida if you're unsure of how these look.

Essentially, you insert the smaller end into a vagina (some are anal compatible) and put the larger end either on the clitoris, taint, or sphincter. This thinner end is designed to vibrate on either the prostate or G-spot. The most significant selling point of these toys is that they provide enough space for a penis to fit inside! This means that both partners get to enjoy the vibrations of the insertable end.

The larger end is designed to sit on either the clitoris, taint, or sphincter, meaning that you get triple the pleasure! Internal vibrations, external vibrations, and penetration!

Strap-Ons

Strap-ons are hugely popular nowadays. Typically, one person wears aharness fitted with a dildo or vibrator, and it is used to penetrate the other partner either anally or vaginally. These are an excellent choice for couples where there isn't a penis, couples that want to experiment with dual penetration, or those who struggle with erectile difficulties.

We have an entire article on how to choose a harness here if you're unsure of what type would suit you best!

Strapless Strap-Ons

Now, these are a great time. Essentially, one end goes into the penetrating partner (anally or vaginally), and you can insert the other end into another partner's desired opening. This double penetration allows both partners to experience the pleasure of being penetrated at the same time. Many products also vibrate, like our favourite strapless-strap-on byFun Factory called the ShareVibe.

Almost any toy out there can be used as a couples toy so long as it has a secure way to grip it! You can use any vibrator to stimulate your partner's clit, breasts, taint, or anus whenever you please!

If you want to dip your toe into couples' toys, we recommend starting at the top of this list and working your way down! There is so much to do and explore. The best way to get started is just to get started!

Get out there, Get in there, and Get off there!

Elaine S. Turner

Sexuality Educator, Sex Coach, & Sexual Wellness Brand Consultant

www.SexWithElaine.com

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